Love Addiction Test
A 28-question self-screening for chronic love-addiction patterns across relationships — seven dimensions, a 0-100 pattern index and clear guidance.
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Introduction
Love addiction describes a chronic pattern rather than a single intense romance: using new relationships to regulate moods, being unable to tolerate being single, replaying the same painful script with different people, and watching romance slowly eat into work, friends, health and money. Researchers debate the label — "love addiction" is not a formal diagnosis — but the pattern itself is real, common, and workable.
This 28-question screening maps that pattern across seven dimensions and gives a 0-100 index. It adapts themes from published frameworks — Mellody's work on love addiction (1992), Griffiths' components model of addiction (2005), and the S.L.A.A. self-screening tradition — into an original questionnaire. Answer about your long-term pattern across relationships, not just the current one.
The seven dimensions
- Romantic salience: How much romance organizes your sense of self and the shape of your life.
- Mood dependence: How much you reach for romance to regulate stress, loneliness and low moods.
- Impaired control & withdrawal: Trying to slow down and being unable to — plus how unbearable single stretches feel.
- Persistence despite consequences: Staying in — or returning to — relationships that demonstrably hurt you.
- Self-worth parasitism: Feeling valuable only when someone needs and loves you.
- Tolerance & escalation: Needing ever more intense romance to feel anything at all.
- Life conflict & self-neglect: Romance repeatedly eating into friends, work, health and money.
How scoring works
Each item is scored 1-5 (some items are reverse-scored). Dimension scores range 4-20, and the total (28-140) maps linearly to a pattern index from 0 to 100 across four bands: Self-Determined, Worth Watching, Clear Pattern and Seek Support. The bands are screening language, not grades — higher simply means the pattern deserves more deliberate attention. If romance is currently affecting your work, finances, health or safety, skip the bands and bring in professional support directly.
References
- Mellody, P., Wells Miller, A., & Miller, J. K. (1992). Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love. HarperOne.
- Griffiths, M. (2005). A ‘components’ model of addiction within a biopsychosocial framework. Journal of Substance Use, 10(4), 191–197.
- Earp, B. D., Wudarczyk, O. A., Foddy, B., & Savulescu, J. (2017). Addicted to love: What is love addiction and when should it be treated? Philosophical Psychology, 30(4), 453–481.
- Theme framework referenced: S.L.A.A. “40 Questions for Self-Diagnosis” (The Augustine Fellowship, 1985). This quiz is an original Kuakua adaptation and is not affiliated with or endorsed by S.L.A.A.
- This screening is an original Kuakua adaptation of the frameworks above. It has no normative sample, is not a validated psychological instrument, and is not affiliated with or endorsed by S.L.A.A.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Is love addiction a real diagnosis?
No — "love addiction" is not a formal clinical diagnosis. Researchers describe it through adjacent lenses: limerence (Tennov), behavioral-addiction components (Griffiths) and attachment theory. What is not disputed is the pattern itself: using romance to regulate emotions, being unable to tolerate singleness, and repeating harmful relationship cycles. This screening measures that pattern; it does not label you with a disorder.
How is this different from the love-struck quiz?
The love-struck quiz measures how invested you are right now, in your current crush or relationship. This screening measures your long-term pattern across relationships over the years — whether romance repeatedly becomes the organizing force of your life. Many people take both: one describes the present, the other describes the tendency.
How is this different from an attachment style test (ECR)?
The ECR classifies your attachment style — secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful — which explains where relational patterns tend to come from. This screening measures how strong the love-addiction pattern currently is and where it shows up most. They complement each other: this is the "what and how much", the ECR is the "why and where from".
I'm single right now — can I take it?
Yes, and it may be especially useful. Answer about your pattern across recent years: how relationships have started, ended, and how the gaps between them have felt. If you've genuinely been content while single for a long stretch, you'll likely see it reflected in a low index.
My score is high — what should I do?
First: a high index is information, not a verdict. Start with your strongest dimension and its suggestion on the results page. If the pattern is affecting your work, finances, health or safety — or simply keeps hurting despite your efforts — working with a counselor is the most effective route, and it's a normal step, not a last resort.
Is this based on S.L.A.A.'s 40 questions?
It references the same research tradition but is not a copy. S.L.A.A.'s questionnaire is copyrighted material of the Augustine Fellowship, so this test is an original adaptation built from the published frameworks behind it — Mellody's Facing Love Addiction, Griffiths' components model and the public themes of self-screening tools. It is not affiliated with or endorsed by S.L.A.A.
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