Love-Struck Quiz
20 questions to measure how love-struck you are — over-investment, anxious preoccupation, idealization and boundaries, scored into a 0–100 index.
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Introduction
Being love-struck — 恋爱脑 in Chinese internet slang — describes what happens when a romance slowly becomes the organizing principle of your life: your mood follows their attention, your plans bend around their schedule, and your own needs move to the back of the queue. It isn't a clinical term and it isn't an insult. It's a pattern, and patterns can be seen clearly.
This quiz measures your current pattern of romantic investment across four dimensions and maps it to a 0–100 index. It draws on the psychology of limerence (Tennov, 1979) and adult attachment (Hazan & Shaver, 1987), but it is a self-reflection tool, not a validated instrument.
The four dimensions
- Over-investment: How much of your time, attention and life space is organized around the other person.
- Anxious preoccupation: How strongly their attention, replies and moods steer your emotional state.
- Idealization filter: How thick the rose-tinted filter is — how much you embellish who they really are.
- Boundary loss: How much of your own needs, opinions and principles you trade away to keep the peace.
How scoring works
Each item is scored 1–5 (some items are reverse-scored). Dimension scores range 5–25, and the total (20–100) maps linearly to a love-struck index from 0 to 100, with five levels from Clear-Eyed to Lovesick Mode. Your highest dimension becomes your dominant pattern. If your index lands within a few points of a level boundary, we'll tell you the neighboring level too — people are continuous, categories aren't.
References
- Tennov, D. (1979). Love and Limerence: The Experience of Being in Love. Stein & Day.
- Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3), 511–524.
- Earp, B. D., Wudarczyk, O. A., Foddy, B., & Savulescu, J. (2017). Addicted to love: What is love addiction and when should it be treated? Philosophical Psychology, 30(4), 453–481.
- This quiz is an original Kuakua adaptation inspired by the constructs above. It has no normative sample and is not a validated psychological instrument.
Frequently Asked Questions
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Is the love-struck quiz scientific?
It is scientifically informed but not a scientific instrument. The dimensions are grounded in research on limerence and adult attachment, but the quiz itself has no normative sample and no clinical standing. Treat it as a structured mirror, not a measurement device.
What does the love-struck index mean?
It maps your total agreement across 20 statements onto a 0–100 scale. A higher index means more of your time, mood and identity are currently organized around one person. It describes the present pattern — not a fixed trait, and not a verdict on how lovable or sensible you are.
I'm single — can I still take it?
Yes. The questions work for a crush, a situationship or a full relationship. If you're not currently drawn to anyone, answer with your most recent experience in mind, or simply enjoy the ten out of ten Clear-Eyed score you're about to get.
Is a high score bad?
No. Intense investment is normal and often wonderful in early-stage love. It becomes worth examining when it's one-directional for a long time: your life shrinking while nothing reciprocal grows back. The score is a prompt to check balance, not a grade.
Lovestruck vs lovesick vs limerence vs love addiction — what's the difference?
Lovestruck and lovesick are everyday words for being swept up in romance — lovesick leans more toward longing and heartache. Limerence is the research term for intrusive, obsessive infatuation with a specific person. Love addiction describes a chronic cross-relationship pattern where romance is used to regulate emotions and self-worth. This quiz measures the everyday pattern; if your score lands in the top range and the pattern repeats across relationships, a love-addiction screening is the natural next step.
How is this different from the attachment style test (ECR)?
The ECR is a validated academic instrument that classifies your attachment style — secure, anxious, avoidant or fearful. This quiz is lighter: it measures how much of your current life is organized around one person, whatever your style. If your anxious-preoccupation dimension scores highest, the ECR will likely explain where the pattern comes from.
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