Red Flag / Green Flag Relationship Quiz

Introduction

The 'red flag / green flag' framework is a popular way to reflect on relationship patterns. Red flags signal behaviors that are rarely or never healthy, yellow flags signal areas that need attention, and green flags signal patterns that usually support a healthy relationship.

This quiz is exploratory and inspired by popular relationship psychology. It is not a validated clinical instrument. Use the results as a starting point for self-reflection or conversation, not as a diagnosis of your relationship.

Four Relationship Domains

• Communication: How openly, honestly, and constructively you and your partner exchange thoughts and feelings.
• Respect & Boundaries: Whether each partner honors the other's autonomy, personal space, and decisions without control or coercion.
• Trust & Safety: The degree of emotional and physical safety, reliability, and mutual appreciation in the relationship.
• Growth & Support: How well the relationship supports each partner's goals, learning, and shared future direction.

How Scoring Works

Each item is scored from 0 (red flag) to 2 (green flag). Items that describe unhealthy behaviors are reverse-scored so that healthier patterns always produce higher scores. Domain averages are shown as percentages (0–100%), and the overall score combines all 20 items (range 0–40, displayed as 0–100%).

References

• Inspired by popular relationship psychology concepts from Gottman, J. M. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Crown.
• Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (2015). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work (Revised ed.). Crown.
• Note: This quiz is an exploratory, popular-psychology tool. It is not a validated clinical instrument and should not replace professional relationship counseling.