Love & Social Psychological Safety Index Test

Introduction

Feeling safe — with a partner and among people — is quiet work of the mind. When it is there, you hardly notice it; when it is not, everything from a slow reply to a room full of strangers can feel threatening. Psychological safety in love and in social life runs on the same underlying sense: "I am okay, and I can handle what comes."

This test draws on two research traditions: attachment theory's idea of felt security in adult relationships (Hazan & Shaver, 1987; Brennan, Clark, & Shaver, 1998) and the study of social-evaluative anxiety (Watson & Friend, 1969). The items are our own wording, written for self-reflection.

The Two Dimensions

• Romantic Security: How safe and secure you feel in your intimate relationship: trust, feeling valued, and freedom from constant worry.
• Social Security: How safe you feel around other people: speaking up, meeting new faces, and being yourself without excessive fear of judgment.

Scoring

Each item is rated on a 5-point scale from "strongly disagree" to "strongly agree". Your raw score (0–72) is converted to a 0–100 Psychological Safety Index — higher scores indicate greater security — and each dimension is shown as a percentage. The cutoffs are this site's own convention for framing results, not validated clinical thresholds.

References

• Hazan, C., & Shaver, P. (1987). Romantic love conceptualized as an attachment process. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 52(3), 511–524.
• Brennan, K. A., Clark, C. L., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Self-report measurement of adult attachment. In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment Theory and Close Relationships (pp. 46–76). Guilford Press.
• Watson, D., & Friend, R. (1969). Measurement of social-evaluative anxiety. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 33(4), 448–457.
• This is an original, mechanism-inspired self-reflection tool (exploratory). It is adapted from concepts in attachment and social-anxiety research rather than reproducing a validated instrument, and it has not been formally tested for reliability or validity.